Once upon a time…. A very poor man lived with his wife. One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed. The man felt very sorry and said no. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken. She did not insist on her request. The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife. He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife. He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut. She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band. Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.
My Message:
Real love is mutual and is connected with reciprocity. Love is definitely not about expectation. If you start expecting things out of love it will almost always ruin what you are sharing in your relationships. It is a common thing that we give to others and expect the same in return when the time comes. We all know the famous line of "I owe you one" or "you owe me one"… This isn't what love is about. It's about giving of yourself completely and not expecting anything back in return, that is real love. Expectations may cause more stress than joy. They spoil the beauty of giving, which may lead to disappointment if the person doesn't return the kindness; and can tie your intentions to an internal score card, which places a wedge in the relationship. If you really love the people closest to you then start giving without conditional terms… If we can all achieve this then the above story will be something which we can all experience.
To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is everything.
May you have an awesome week!
Darren Zwiers
Pleasure is a necessary reciprocal. No one feels, who does not at the same time give it. To be pleased, one must please. What pleases you in others, will in general please them in you." ~ Lord Chesterfield
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